Define: Security, Control, Approval
Every human being has three core wants that shape our thoughts, emotions, and actions:
- Approval — is the desire to be loved, liked, wanted, valued, appreciated, respected, to belong, and to be part of something.
- Control — the desire to manage outcomes, people, and circumstances.
- Security — the want to survive. The desire to feel safe, stable, and certain.
Excerpt from the Book:
In an oversimplified way, all leaders at any moment are operating from one of two beliefs/experiences: those who believe they lack something and want it and are seeking to get it from someone or something outside of themselves, and those who believe they are already whole, perfect, and complete and lack nothing.
What if everything in this moment in your life is actually whole, perfect and complete? What if you are lacking nothing? Not just what if you believed you lacked nothing (which is a mind game) but what if your actual experience in this moment was that nothing was missing? How would you be?
From Above the Line
By Me:
I commit to being the source of my security, control and approval.
From below the Line
To Me:
I commit to living from the belief that my approval, control and security come from the outside; people, circumstances and conditions.
